Cultural Musings

5 things you need to know about Polish guys

Polish guys are a lot of things. They love football (the European kind), they’re not players, they’re serious meat-eaters, they’re down-to-earth, they can hold their liquor, they aren’t afraid of commitment, and they aren’t particularly open about their feelings. The list goes on. Sound like a bunch of generalizations? Perhaps so, but I think they apply in this case.

UWAGA: These are so pretty broad generalizations from my observations of Polish men and from having been in relationships with two of them. I know good and well that it’s not possible these traits encompass all Polish men (or American men for that matter as I do talk about them as well). But this is my blog, and I enjoy generalizations in an effort to understand a group at large. If you think otherwise, that’s fine, we can discuss it in the comments. 🙂

 They’re down to Earth.

I feel like American guys are so arrogant sometimes. They think they’re the shit and they can get anyone. In college it was like every semi-attractive guy could have any gorgeous girl. Polish guys don’t seem to think in that way. They’re just normal guys.

They don’t have unrealistic expectations.

There’s not gonna be this expectation in Polish relationships that your partner is everything for you. They’re your partner and that’s that. In America, I feel like it’s the exact opposite. Your partner has to be the ideal person and it seems like that’s why it often takes people a while to make a commitment.

They’re not players.

This was so refreshing for me when I moved here. I have the impression that American guys are always looking for the next best thing. It’s like you’re with them but they don’t appreciate it and every new hot piece of ass is a potential threat. I feel like Polish guys sometimes don’t even much notice other girls much when they’re in a relationship- and if they do then they don’t make it obvious. You also don’t get catcalled too much in Poland (unless it’s construction workers), which I think is saying something.

They can (and want) to commit.

It seems like it takes American couples forever to make the decision to tie the knot and here in Poland people often do it earlier, like mid-20s. Maybe that’s due to religion or the closeness of families, or maybe even pressure from families, but also I think that they’re just not against commitment and they’re not waiting for something better to come along.

They’re not very expressive.

They probably won’t be too lovey-dovey with you, you’ll just have to get over that. That doesn’t mean they’re cold, rather the opposite, but they’ll expect showing their love is enough. If you need to hear something out loud, you might have to let them know and you might have to get over it if that’s not something they can do. 

So did I miss anything, in your opinion? I talked about this subject in a podcast with the guys from Krakcast, if you’d like to actually hear my take on Polish, instead of just reading about it 🙂

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  • Reply Ronald Ti 13 May 2019 at 12:20

    good podcast

    so thats what you sound like 😉

    Ron ti

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 5 July 2019 at 07:47

      Haha yes, now you know! I’m doing another one soon so I’ll post and you can hear my silly voice again 🙂

      • Reply Vivienne 26 December 2022 at 19:21

        I have a relationship with a polish boy right now and you are describing perfectly how he acts but I find he really shows he likes me but he doesn’t show his other feelings much apart from being really sad.

    • Reply Lena 20 October 2020 at 13:25

      Nice! Short n sweet summary. I am going to try my luck and date a Polish man. I wholeheartedly agree with your assessment of American men, it’s unfortunate.

      • Reply Leah Morawiec 20 October 2020 at 13:31

        Hah it is unfortunate!! Maybe something has changed since I left 🙂 For sure it’s gotten worse!

        • Reply Andrew 23 December 2020 at 01:40

          Poland’s been going to shit recently, people are getting more and more toxic, the church is taking over the goverment and PIS is getting aggresive.

          • Chris 10 March 2021 at 19:40

            Sad but true. Grandmas and grandpas decided to keep us in this sick-religion state of political mind by voting for PIS. This country is going to be real mess

      • Reply George 29 May 2022 at 20:33

        I’m ready for use if u look for a good looking older man I’m the only one if u want to ask me more about me u can send an email to me jurko54@hotmail. com u can write in Polish or English I’m fluent in both of them. Have a wonderful day

      • Reply Kalash74 31 July 2022 at 17:17

        Well you cant really assume all american men are bad and all polish men are good, ive met horrible and good polish men but also horrible and good american men.
        Infact, my boyfriend is american and hes the sweetest and most loyal guy ive ever met, so this article is simply just a load of bull?. A persons personality isnt defined by their country of birth, sure it can affect it, but not a lot.

    • Reply Shayla 10 February 2021 at 17:08

      Thank you ?. Everything you wrote at the start was ✅, ✅ and tick.
      I’ve been married to a Polish husband for 23 years this March and been together for 25.
      I have seizures/epilepsy and he stands by me during my appointments but I’m from Uruguay/ Montevideo and I was brought up with affection, attention, loving ? shown I was loved with lots of hugs ?.
      I don’t get a thing of this I sleep ? on theL shaped lounge so he can sleep better in case I snore and we haven’t had sex for 5 months. He’s not a kisser or likes to get many of them and I ask if he can give me one.
      He’s not a drinker and we always stay home ?. What a lovely life.

    • Reply So so but very gfuthful 1 October 2022 at 13:34

      I think you are very wrong and very bias…maybe because u r polish yourself???? Polish men think women are second class. And at any chance they can get they feel it makes them feel more of a man when they can ridiculous a female. They deamean women any chance they can get and do it in such a fashion they sound right..thats manipulators….I do not know where u get your info from…??? It must be that you r polish or euro….they are a very rapist cruel clan…basically Russian…comeoooonnnn….u r full of crap and so is ur blog..!!!

  • Reply Maria Buday 30 August 2019 at 21:21

    Cool coments.
    I have a different question.
    I am Looking for old family friends.
    I have some pics that I wanna see if someone recognize.
    Do you guys know How to do this.
    Grateful for your help

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 7 September 2019 at 13:59

      Hi Maria – hmmm that’s an interesting question. Never heard something like that! Maybe some kind of facebook group?

  • Reply Tivenito122121211212211221 15 November 2019 at 16:06

    I just came acroos your blog, I know it’s late but you, perhaps, you will see my reponse.

    Down to earth? Probably, but Polish guys can also be arrogant, especially, if one is confident, or the opposite, when one has lots of complex, just like me.

    Unrealistic expectations? Well, I agree on that, though I don’t understand one thing. If you are “ugly”, you are not allowed to have dreams, expectations? Of course they won’t probably be fulfilled but you know what I mean. Besides, I think Polish women tend to have unrealistic expectations but that’s just me.

    I agree with another point. If they are truly in love, they don’t pay attention to other women, sure, they may look at them but don’t really care about the women. Most Polish guys do want monogamic relationships.

    I think it’s changing. Men were taught, still are, not to express their feelings, although I’d say Polish men are quite “romantic”, not in a way the Hispanics are, but they can be “cute”, if you know what I mean.

    Just my two cents, as a Polish guy.

    • Reply Kaykay 15 January 2020 at 10:57

      I’m an escort totally infatuated with my polish client. His beautiful ice blue eyes, humble down to earth personality and affectionate ways are making me crush hard! He says he likes me too but communication is poor on his part, so I’m taking the hint that maybe he doesn’t like me to try to date. I’ll have to get over it but Itd sure be alot easier if I had more polish men to visit here in the states!

      • Reply Al Quin 30 May 2020 at 07:19

        lol It looks like if I was describing my current situation. I do not know if I can get over it. Communication is important and makes me feel loved and cared for!

        • Reply CeriKit 17 July 2020 at 00:44

          I love my polish man……he makes me feel better about myself than any man I’ve ever been with. He’s so respectful……but naughty too! He tells me he loves me, he tells me that I’m perfect, he’s fiercely protective of me, he worries about me and is always telling me to lock the door when he’s not there…he looks me straight in the eye and is always honest with me. We share a love of food and cooking, and his desire to share his beautiful home country with me touches my heart. The language barrier is not a problem, we’re teaching each other our respective languages as we go…….his english is far superior to my polish! He is not afraid of commitment which is so different from anyone I’ve been involved with before.
          Yes, before you think he’s perfect…he’s lazy round the house! He tells me that ge needs 100 nannies lol! But I love to care for my hardworking man at home! He’s jealous and doesn’t like other men to look at me. Again not a problem for me……I only have eyes for him! He is passionate and sometimes says things in the heat of the moment that he doesn’t mean. But to be fair that is the downside to having a man who isn’t afraid to show his feelings….good and bad!
          I have truly never felt so loved and appreciated…..I wouldn’t swap hom for any english man on this earth!

          • Mary 20 March 2021 at 01:31

            I love it ! my man is a Polish too and I’m a Filipino but he speaks real good in english. All you say is true !

    • Reply lez 14 June 2021 at 09:49

      I had a polish boyfriend for almost 3 years. Turned out he cheated on me since the start of our relationship. He is a great liar and manipulative. Too proud of himself. He can’t even admit his mistakes.

    • Reply Colleen 23 July 2021 at 17:15

      I absolutely agree with you. I have just met a Polish guy and he is way more affectionate and passionate that I am. He just tells it like it is. Very upfront and honest about everything.

  • Reply Crushing 20 March 2020 at 18:15

    I love this! I’m American and I agree emphatically agree with your perfect generalization of american men. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, giving and loving his gf or wife is, the American dude is always looking for the next best thing. If you think otherwise, just give it more time. He will show his insides soon enough.

    I wanted to thank you for the information about Polish guys though, and I think I was born in the wrong country because this type of personality is perfect to me! I’m having my house worked on and the guys doing the work are Polish and really just so very kind! I have a big crush on one of them! The work will be done soon and I’m going to be sad when this guy leaves.. I feel like a little kid with a silly schoolyard crush, little butterflies and everything. =)

  • Reply Polish boy 28 March 2020 at 21:42

    Leah, I wish you health in Coronavirus time
    You are still in Poland?

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 29 March 2020 at 09:57

      Yup still here!

  • Reply Sharon 30 April 2020 at 09:49

    I am a latin woman and dated a polish guy..he was romantic and had beautifull blue eyes..protective..just the best! And true they dont out there feelings so much but that was so much better..because when he did it made me feel so much more special

  • Reply Sebastian 4 May 2020 at 11:23

    I found this blog accidentally but I have to say, you did very interesting observations! I realised a few new things about my nation! Well done!

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 14 May 2020 at 10:34

      Thanks a lot, Sebastian 🙂

  • Reply Kay 20 May 2020 at 08:31

    I randomly met a polish army man of my absolute dreams. He’s so handsome kind. Caring, passionate. He knows himself and what he wants. Never run out of things to say. He doesn’t have super high expectations. Basic loyal respect honesty. So forth but so much more… We have little communication issues. He’s piercing blue eyes, set my heart on fire. Guys help I’m falling so so hard. Hes goning to be my husband. I feel it.

    • Reply Idongesit 22 May 2020 at 22:32

      I met this Polish guy about a month ago. He’s cool and has a great sense of humor. I like him a lot but I guess he only likes me as a friend. I wish he could see that I like and want him. Although I know the race and distance could be a huge barrier. I wish things were different.

  • Reply Mei Le 22 June 2020 at 13:45

    I have a complicated relationship with a Polish guy that I’ve met in Australia.

    Even he drove 11 hours to visit me but he’s never called me when we were far away from each other.

    I miss him so bad but seems like he is a workaholic, or he just wants to play with me?

    • Reply Cei 20 August 2020 at 10:11

      Hi Mei, I have exactly same situation. I had the same question too. Was struggling with that. When I read your comment, I just wondered if we met a same guy ?

      • Reply Polish ex-migrant 24 October 2022 at 22:09

        Polish men are usually very hardworking. Especially when they live abroad they tend to work more (are forced by employers) than natives in their own countries (voluntary or involuntary overtimes). Maybe that’s what it is, maybe that’s the case? Honest conversation can clear up potential misunderstanding.

        BTW many people are insecure, simply they don’t want want to be hurt/ get hurt. Also people who have emotional wounds (from childchood or from previous relationships in which they were betrayed) tend to be careful or worry about these things.

  • Reply Sam 12 July 2020 at 19:10

    Hello Leah, very interesting blog since I met a polish guy in dating app. I def agree with you! He is down to earth. He told me he likes me and asked me about getting married even if I ghosted him for 5 weeks and tho he is always busy studying he texts me everyday. My guts is telling me he is serious but I also don’t wanna get high expectations since it’s LDR (I’m from Philippines btw hehe) umm do you think he really do like me and his serious? Thankssss hehe ?❣

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 16 July 2020 at 14:23

      Sure, why not? You’ll never know if you don’t try 🙂

    • Reply Rachel 12 September 2020 at 09:51

      Hi, you still with your polish guy now? I’m also from the Philippines, and in a relationship with a polish guy 🙂

    • Reply My 4 February 2021 at 01:19

      Hello, I am now communicating with a polish guy. Does also language is an issue? I am a filipina.
      He is busy with work but he told me when finds time he will write to me because he is in business trips. I feel like I like it when he said he is going out, seems very polite. I like when he greeted me in the morning and see If I am online.

      • Reply Leah Morawiec 4 February 2021 at 09:46

        Hi there! What’s your question exactly? Is language an issue? It’s always an issue when the couple is binational – there are always some nuisances which are kind of lost in translation. But I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone nice 🙂

  • Reply Ayesh 19 July 2020 at 12:41

    Hi, I was searching in Google how are Polish guys like since I have a boyfriend whom I met online and I must say that I agree on those qualities you listed in this blog. He’s so damn caring and sweet. He even deactivated his IG when we started our LDR so he can focus on me. I didn’t believe him at first but consistency played a major role. He never missed a chance to make me feel special and loved. And yes, it took him few weeks before he admitted his feelings towards me which I find cute. Lol. I think Polish guys are the best partners one could ever find in this world full of boys who just want to have fun. More power to your blog! Be safe

  • Reply Julie Pugh 27 July 2020 at 06:49

    I’ve met a polish man he’s 11 yrs younger, but we have fun … I’m. It sue of how he feels about me deeply like I do him .. he said let’s see where this will go you. Ever know.. do you think it’s a string along or that he really does care!! He says I e thins to me all the time .we have a lot in common … I’m 60 he’s 49 yes or no to. It of gap we have fun when we get together a lot .. keep going??

  • Reply Amber 30 November 2020 at 12:41

    I cannot believe with all of your description with the Polish guy. I know one Polish man who is married with two teen kids and yet cheating on his wife for 20 years. This man is working abroad and the wife and kids are back in Poland. The wife is so naive that she does not know that her husband who goes home every 4 months and stay for only 2 months, sleeps with different women. At home, he acts as a perfect husband and father! Yikes !!! Disgusting! This man flirts like hell with different women like there is no tomorrow. I also observe that Polish men, yes, they will act as if they are head over heels inlove with their wife/ GF / partner but behind those gestures are wolves in the sheeps clothing. They are cheaters and liars and cowards. Please be careful with Polish men and do not put so much high hopes with them. This explains why so many Polish women prefer to date non Polish men. Well, although most of the Polish women are also naives and gold diggers and cheaters too. Good luck with your Polish boyfriends!

  • Reply CHAI 22 January 2021 at 01:28

    I partly agree with Amber above. I think most polish guys are very family orientated.
    But there is always a risk when polish men works abroad without their families.
    I had some polish guys working at my home, one of the guys was acting very strange towards me. He stared at me through my windows lot, stared in my eyes for minutes, stood very close to me while we talked, he never wanted to end the diskussions, he asked me personal questions, didnt seem to want to go home after work, asked if he could help me in private after he finished his work etc He is married and his wife lives with him, so he doesnt live apart from his family. I didnt think so much about it until one day when he started to visibly stare at my ass and touch his genitals a lot while he talked with me.I thought it was a mistake, but he did it on several occasions, for longer periods. The whole situation was just weird when it happened. I think Im not the only one who he have done this to, he works overtime a lot, so I think he does this all the time towards other women. I feel Sorry for his wife, she seems to be madly in love with him and is beautiful with a perfect body.

  • Reply CeriKit 31 January 2021 at 21:07

    Hey there are always exceptions! There are players in all countries! ……..but update, I’m still with the Polish man of my dreams and I’ve finally visited Poland! I’m as much in love with his beautiful country as I am with him! We have a fantastic home together and my Mother thinks he’s the best man I’ve ever had in my life….and from her that’s a huge compliment!

    Learning Polish is a challenge though, the English are terrible at languages, but I’m committed to having the basics by Christmas!

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 4 February 2021 at 09:45

      I’m very happy for you! I feel the same way about Poland. For sure, the language is the biggest disadvantage. It’s taken me about 10 years to get to a comfortable speaking level, but I took my time 🙂

  • Reply Roselle 20 September 2021 at 01:16

    In a few days .I’ll be meeting a polish guy I meet on a dating site.He was born in Poland but lives here now in the US.I don’t know how long he reside in the US but he said he’s still have a Polish accent.So I’ll the out later if he’s more of a Polish guy or a White guy character traits:)

  • Reply Kathy Allen 5 November 2021 at 04:00

    I do not find language a barrier. It’s very cute the things he always gets across. I did meet him on eharmony. Initially, I thought he was a bit sarcastic but came to realize that wasn’t the case. I am American, and had what I refer to as “a dog” for a husband, for 20 yrs. we were both educated, worked hard and I made at least as much money as he did. He was not affectionate except in bed; never seemed to care about my needs or making me happy; never showed respect for me in any way…. Right! Why did I hang on for 20 yrs???? I so hoped he would decide to be a dad and husband. Did not happen.
    What is so very different about my new found Polish gentleman, is that he is very communicative!!!! Says his wife (who died 8 yrs ago) taught him to be “intentional” about love.
    He is SO KIND and CARING and WANTS TO TAKE CARE OF ME!!!! This is SO NEW to me, I am having a tough time believing this is all real!!
    I wonder if he is moving too fast… or if this is “his way”? That’s why I am searching out, “what I can expect from a Polish man ?”!!! There is a physical distance between us…. That he says cannot hinder our love!! He is even taking a wonderful position for work, starting next week, to be in another country, way far away…. Saying I will come there. Can this “quick love” be real and lasting ?? He had not dated at all since his wife’s death. It is his daughter who signed him up and put his picture on dating site. He said she told him, “it was time….”! He told me, at first, he wasn’t happy with her for doing this…. THEN, he found me!!!! That was it. He closed his dating site!!! All I have to do is “mention” something I am working on, or is a concern….& he is “on it”, solving and guiding me how to handle!!! I am not used to this amazing caring, respect and pure love. But I am absolutely open! And, we share a strong faith in The Only True Christian God, which is so important to both of us.
    Can this be real? I have not even meet this man yet…. and he is TELLING ME… and SHOWING ME, how special I am to him…!!!

  • Reply Rachel 17 January 2022 at 03:54

    I’ve just started an LDR with a Polish-born man who lives in FL (I’m in MA). He is basically everything you described– he’s super-ready for commitment, very honest, makes me feel like I’m so beautiful. He doesn’t play games. You were right that they don’t seem to have the same mindset as American men about wanting an ideal partner. He loves me the way I am. But he is really expressive with his feelings, so not sure if it’s an age or generational gap of Polish men who aren’t so expressive.

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 10 February 2022 at 18:47

      Rachel – congrats! Very happy for you. Ah maybe the expressiveness is just a character thing 🙂 Sometimes I exaggerate or tend to think something can be generalised when it really can’t 🙂

  • Reply Foolish heart 22 March 2022 at 17:54

    The Polish man I know, I cannot call him mine yet. We have known each other for over 5 years now. We’ve just met online chatting and sending emails. I have plan to go to Poland in 201 but my plan postponed because of pandemic. There are many things happened in our lives like work, etc but we are still communicating with each other. I don’t just like him but I feel I love him. He’s been my advisor and best friend. He was always there for me. I feel he is near he. He is always in my mind. We don’t exchange I love yous’. We just greet each other, talk about things like work, problems at work sometimes politics. He is very religious and health conscious, these are the things that I adore him so much. But I really dont know what’s the real score. I cant tell my feelings for him because Im a single mom and he is single unmarried man no children. Although he always show his care to my children, I doubt he likes the idea of being dad. Maybe he is looking for a single lady.

    I met him in dating site and for the last 4 years I keep on checking if he is online to that site or if he at least access the site and yes, he did so I was thinking that he is still looking for another woman. I can also see new added women from my country on his social media. I feel jealous and sad but I don’t own him. I am still happy that he is a friend. And one day last year, I tried to search him again in dating site. He was not there anymore. He deleted his profile I am not sure why but I dont want to ask.
    We have a somewhat big age gap like I am 38 and he is 51. But he is single and I am separated with kids. Maybe there are many deserving single ladies out there for him. I hope he finds the right one soon so I can let him go. Oh no, and now my tears are falling. Seems like I cant let go him yet…

  • Reply JustMe 11 May 2022 at 11:10

    I’ve met a polish guy online for least than two or three months now and I’m starting to have strong feelings for him. I would like him to be my husband but there was a time that I felt insecure doubtful of our relationships, When he said to me, he’ll call me tomorrow morning or tonight, but he didn’t call like what he said he will. Most of the time he didn’t mean what he told me. This is not only first time but many times.

    He told me to take down my site because he doesn’t me to talk to any other men. He said he’s very jealous but his site still there too he didn’t take his site down either.

    He kept on telling me that he loves me but his words don’t match with his action.

    He asked my home address he said he’s going to send me something but I haven’t received it yet. It has been two weeks now that I haven’t got what he sent me. I didn’t know for sure if he did send me something or he just want to see my house. Now days anybody can see your house as long as they have your home address. It has been two weeks now since I gave him my home address. He didn’t give me a tracking number if he really did send me something. I think he’s laying to me he just want probably to see how my house looks like. Now days anybody can see your house through computer if they’ve your home address.
    I probably have to break up with him instead of fooling myself. I don’t think his intention was real. He said to me many times he loves me but I’m become doubtful. I hope he’s not playing my heart. I saw him login in to his site.

  • Reply Tom 25 June 2022 at 05:12

    hi Idongesit.
    Where are You from? I wonder what your cultural background is that makes you think it could turn out to be difficult. Kind regatds

  • Reply Joyce 3 July 2022 at 07:46

    I am in the process of applying for a Master’s degree in Poland and I am single. This is why I am here to learn about the Polish men. From the comments, I feel like those men are good if not average. Anyhow, I will come and experience it for myself…..

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 3 July 2022 at 07:54

      Joyce – Of course it depends on who you meet. I’ve had both good and bad experiences, so you just never know. But I think in general Poles are looking for long term relationships.

  • Reply nathania Kara 14 March 2023 at 05:50

    For some reason i come across to your article, i’ve never dating a Polish man before but recently i have to work with one of them. for my opinion he’s such a gentleman (hold the door, like always said ladies first for everything) so respectful and they know how to draw the line while they work (but they also tell the truth after the work is done) i love how respectful they are and motivated all the time.

  • Reply Babs 28 March 2024 at 19:16

    I am just wondering if there is anyone who may have connected with this Polish man here in the US living Hampton, New Hampshire with a second home in Madison, Connecticut? He seems to come on very strong, romantic and committed, very very sweet and verbal with his feelings and interest with me, talking every day thus far and video chats…just wondering if he may be just a sly-fox or for real? He said he lost his wife 6 years ago to a drunk-driver in Poland, he has one daughter who studies in England…very handsome, successful civil engineer…has 2 beautiful siberian huskies, he lives one connected or past-connection with him, by chance? Tks!

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