Polish guys are a lot of things. They love football (the European kind), they’re not players, they’re serious meat-eaters, they’re down-to-earth, they can hold their liquor, they aren’t afraid of commitment, and they aren’t particularly open about their feelings. The list goes on. Sound like a bunch of generalizations? Perhaps so, but I think they apply in this case.
UWAGA: These are so pretty broad generalizations from my observations of Polish men and from having been in relationships with two of them. I know good and well that it’s not possible these traits encompass all Polish men (or American men for that matter as I do talk about them as well). But this is my blog, and I enjoy generalizations in an effort to understand a group at large. If you think otherwise, that’s fine, we can discuss it in the comments. 🙂
They’re down to Earth.
I feel like American guys are so arrogant sometimes. They think they’re the shit and they can get anyone. In college it was like every semi-attractive guy could have any gorgeous girl. Polish guys don’t seem to think in that way. They’re just normal guys.
They don’t have unrealistic expectations.
There’s not gonna be this expectation in Polish relationships that your partner is everything for you. They’re your partner and that’s that. In America, I feel like it’s the exact opposite. Your partner has to be the ideal person and it seems like that’s why it often takes people a while to make a commitment.
They’re not players.
This was so refreshing for me when I moved here. I have the impression that American guys are always looking for the next best thing. It’s like you’re with them but they don’t appreciate it and every new hot piece of ass is a potential threat. I feel like Polish guys sometimes don’t even much notice other girls much when they’re in a relationship- and if they do then they don’t make it obvious. You also don’t get catcalled too much in Poland (unless it’s construction workers), which I think is saying something.
They can (and want) to commit.
It seems like it takes American couples forever to make the decision to tie the knot and here in Poland people often do it earlier, like mid-20s. Maybe that’s due to religion or the closeness of families, or maybe even pressure from families, but also I think that they’re just not against commitment and they’re not waiting for something better to come along.
They’re not very expressive.
They probably won’t be too lovey-dovey with you, you’ll just have to get over that. That doesn’t mean they’re cold, rather the opposite, but they’ll expect showing their love is enough. If you need to hear something out loud, you might have to let them know and you might have to get over it if that’s not something they can do.
So did I miss anything, in your opinion? I talked about this subject in a podcast with the guys from Krakcast, if you’d like to actually hear my take on Polish, instead of just reading about it 🙂