Cultural Musings

5 things you need to know about Polish guys

Polish guys are a lot of things. They love football (the European kind), they’re not players, they’re serious meat-eaters, they’re down-to-earth, they can hold their liquor, they aren’t afraid of commitment, and they aren’t particularly open about their feelings. The list goes on. Sound like a bunch of generalizations? Perhaps so, but I think they apply in this case.

UWAGA: These are so pretty broad generalizations from my observations of Polish men and from having been in relationships with two of them. I know good and well that it’s not possible these traits encompass all Polish men (or American men for that matter as I do talk about them as well). But this is my blog, and I enjoy generalizations in an effort to understand a group at large. If you think otherwise, that’s fine, we can discuss it in the comments. 🙂

 They’re down to Earth.

I feel like American guys are so arrogant sometimes. They think they’re the shit and they can get anyone. In college it was like every semi-attractive guy could have any gorgeous girl. Polish guys don’t seem to think in that way. They’re just normal guys.

They don’t have unrealistic expectations.

There’s not gonna be this expectation in Polish relationships that your partner is everything for you. They’re your partner and that’s that. In America, I feel like it’s the exact opposite. Your partner has to be the ideal person and it seems like that’s why it often takes people a while to make a commitment.

They’re not players.

This was so refreshing for me when I moved here. I have the impression that American guys are always looking for the next best thing. It’s like you’re with them but they don’t appreciate it and every new hot piece of ass is a potential threat. I feel like Polish guys sometimes don’t even much notice other girls much when they’re in a relationship- and if they do then they don’t make it obvious. You also don’t get catcalled too much in Poland (unless it’s construction workers), which I think is saying something.

They can (and want) to commit.

It seems like it takes American couples forever to make the decision to tie the knot and here in Poland people often do it earlier, like mid-20s. Maybe that’s due to religion or the closeness of families, or maybe even pressure from families, but also I think that they’re just not against commitment and they’re not waiting for something better to come along.

They’re not very expressive.

They probably won’t be too lovey-dovey with you, you’ll just have to get over that. That doesn’t mean they’re cold, rather the opposite, but they’ll expect showing their love is enough. If you need to hear something out loud, you might have to let them know and you might have to get over it if that’s not something they can do. 

So did I miss anything, in your opinion? I talked about this subject in a podcast with the guys from Krakcast, if you’d like to actually hear my take on Polish, instead of just reading about it 🙂

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21 Comments

  • Reply Ronald Ti 13 May 2019 at 12:20

    good podcast

    so thats what you sound like 😉

    Ron ti

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 5 July 2019 at 07:47

      Haha yes, now you know! I’m doing another one soon so I’ll post and you can hear my silly voice again 🙂

  • Reply Maria Buday 30 August 2019 at 21:21

    Cool coments.
    I have a different question.
    I am Looking for old family friends.
    I have some pics that I wanna see if someone recognize.
    Do you guys know How to do this.
    Grateful for your help
    Maria

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 7 September 2019 at 13:59

      Hi Maria – hmmm that’s an interesting question. Never heard something like that! Maybe some kind of facebook group?

  • Reply Tivenito122121211212211221 15 November 2019 at 16:06

    I just came acroos your blog, I know it’s late but you, perhaps, you will see my reponse.

    Down to earth? Probably, but Polish guys can also be arrogant, especially, if one is confident, or the opposite, when one has lots of complex, just like me.

    Unrealistic expectations? Well, I agree on that, though I don’t understand one thing. If you are “ugly”, you are not allowed to have dreams, expectations? Of course they won’t probably be fulfilled but you know what I mean. Besides, I think Polish women tend to have unrealistic expectations but that’s just me.

    I agree with another point. If they are truly in love, they don’t pay attention to other women, sure, they may look at them but don’t really care about the women. Most Polish guys do want monogamic relationships.

    I think it’s changing. Men were taught, still are, not to express their feelings, although I’d say Polish men are quite “romantic”, not in a way the Hispanics are, but they can be “cute”, if you know what I mean.

    Just my two cents, as a Polish guy.

    • Reply Kaykay 15 January 2020 at 10:57

      I’m an escort totally infatuated with my polish client. His beautiful ice blue eyes, humble down to earth personality and affectionate ways are making me crush hard! He says he likes me too but communication is poor on his part, so I’m taking the hint that maybe he doesn’t like me to try to date. I’ll have to get over it but Itd sure be alot easier if I had more polish men to visit here in the states!

      • Reply Al Quin 30 May 2020 at 07:19

        lol It looks like if I was describing my current situation. I do not know if I can get over it. Communication is important and makes me feel loved and cared for!

        • Reply CeriKit 17 July 2020 at 00:44

          I love my polish man……he makes me feel better about myself than any man I’ve ever been with. He’s so respectful……but naughty too! He tells me he loves me, he tells me that I’m perfect, he’s fiercely protective of me, he worries about me and is always telling me to lock the door when he’s not there…he looks me straight in the eye and is always honest with me. We share a love of food and cooking, and his desire to share his beautiful home country with me touches my heart. The language barrier is not a problem, we’re teaching each other our respective languages as we go…….his english is far superior to my polish! He is not afraid of commitment which is so different from anyone I’ve been involved with before.
          Yes, before you think he’s perfect…he’s lazy round the house! He tells me that ge needs 100 nannies lol! But I love to care for my hardworking man at home! He’s jealous and doesn’t like other men to look at me. Again not a problem for me……I only have eyes for him! He is passionate and sometimes says things in the heat of the moment that he doesn’t mean. But to be fair that is the downside to having a man who isn’t afraid to show his feelings….good and bad!
          I have truly never felt so loved and appreciated…..I wouldn’t swap hom for any english man on this earth!

  • Reply Crushing 20 March 2020 at 18:15

    I love this! I’m American and I agree emphatically agree with your perfect generalization of american men. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, giving and loving his gf or wife is, the American dude is always looking for the next best thing. If you think otherwise, just give it more time. He will show his insides soon enough.

    I wanted to thank you for the information about Polish guys though, and I think I was born in the wrong country because this type of personality is perfect to me! I’m having my house worked on and the guys doing the work are Polish and really just so very kind! I have a big crush on one of them! The work will be done soon and I’m going to be sad when this guy leaves.. I feel like a little kid with a silly schoolyard crush, little butterflies and everything. =)

  • Reply Polish boy 28 March 2020 at 21:42

    Leah, I wish you health in Coronavirus time
    You are still in Poland?

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 29 March 2020 at 09:57

      Yup still here!

  • Reply Sharon 30 April 2020 at 09:49

    I am a latin woman and dated a polish guy..he was romantic and had beautifull blue eyes..protective..just the best! And true they dont out there feelings so much but that was so much better..because when he did it made me feel so much more special

  • Reply Sebastian 4 May 2020 at 11:23

    I found this blog accidentally but I have to say, you did very interesting observations! I realised a few new things about my nation! Well done!

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 14 May 2020 at 10:34

      Thanks a lot, Sebastian 🙂

  • Reply Kay 20 May 2020 at 08:31

    I randomly met a polish army man of my absolute dreams. He’s so handsome kind. Caring, passionate. He knows himself and what he wants. Never run out of things to say. He doesn’t have super high expectations. Basic loyal respect honesty. So forth but so much more… We have little communication issues. He’s piercing blue eyes, set my heart on fire. Guys help I’m falling so so hard. Hes goning to be my husband. I feel it.

    • Reply Idongesit 22 May 2020 at 22:32

      I met this Polish guy about a month ago. He’s cool and has a great sense of humor. I like him a lot but I guess he only likes me as a friend. I wish he could see that I like and want him. Although I know the race and distance could be a huge barrier. I wish things were different.

  • Reply Mei Le 22 June 2020 at 13:45

    I have a complicated relationship with a Polish guy that I’ve met in Australia.

    Even he drove 11 hours to visit me but he’s never called me when we were far away from each other.

    I miss him so bad but seems like he is a workaholic, or he just wants to play with me?

  • Reply Sam 12 July 2020 at 19:10

    Hello Leah, very interesting blog since I met a polish guy in dating app. I def agree with you! He is down to earth. He told me he likes me and asked me about getting married even if I ghosted him for 5 weeks and tho he is always busy studying he texts me everyday. My guts is telling me he is serious but I also don’t wanna get high expectations since it’s LDR (I’m from Philippines btw hehe) umm do you think he really do like me and his serious? Thankssss hehe 😅❣

    • Reply Leah Morawiec 16 July 2020 at 14:23

      Sure, why not? You’ll never know if you don’t try 🙂

  • Reply Ayesh 19 July 2020 at 12:41

    Hi, I was searching in Google how are Polish guys like since I have a boyfriend whom I met online and I must say that I agree on those qualities you listed in this blog. He’s so damn caring and sweet. He even deactivated his IG when we started our LDR so he can focus on me. I didn’t believe him at first but consistency played a major role. He never missed a chance to make me feel special and loved. And yes, it took him few weeks before he admitted his feelings towards me which I find cute. Lol. I think Polish guys are the best partners one could ever find in this world full of boys who just want to have fun. More power to your blog! Be safe

  • Reply Julie Pugh 27 July 2020 at 06:49

    I’ve met a polish man he’s 11 yrs younger, but we have fun … I’m. It sue of how he feels about me deeply like I do him .. he said let’s see where this will go you. Ever know.. do you think it’s a string along or that he really does care!! He says I e thins to me all the time .we have a lot in common … I’m 60 he’s 49 yes or no to. It of gap we have fun when we get together a lot .. keep going??

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